| Lessons In Love For William & Kate From The Pop Charts |
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| Written by Dr. Janice Seto | |
| Tuesday, 01 May 2007 | |
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Page 3 of 5 2. DISRESPECT: If you don’t get the message from distancing, the next escalation is to make you pull the plug through acts of disrespect. It has gone to making it very public and obvious that: "Look here, I don't care about you. You are not important enough for me to stand up for you". William went out with other women. Posing for photographs with his arms around other women — however innocent such meetings were — the media-savvy Prince must have known the pictures would appear in the papers, in turn giving Kate photographic evidence of his wish to enjoy a social life far from her side?  William also appeared to do nothing to counter his friends' louche comments about Kate’s family, especially the remarks about the social standing and etiquette of her mother, Carole.Meanwhile, some observers questioned why Kate was often left to catch a taxi following a night out with her Prince (although the royal men, including Charles with Camilla — pictured departing a party in a taxi — have a history of leaving their ladies to be protected by friends and officials). At least Princess Masako’s husband, Crown Prince Naruhito of Japan, stood up for the woman he loves. Too many men and women let themselves be humiliated by their man’s antics and bullying – “What kind of woman will put up with that treatment?” Catty people would reply: "Someone who loves the idea of becoming a princess enough to put up with his shoddy treatment of her." When William did not care enough about his girlfriend of four years to be discreet, it seemed clear it was in order to send a clear message to the world declaring: "She's not the one!" At this stage, 'The Other' may still leave his toothbrush around but it is just for the physical relationship. Amazing that some men believe they can have the sex with no side effects. Amazing that women believe in the efficacy of using sex to get love – which confuses things. 
The only four-letter word here is HOPE. As the prurient press has implied, continued intimate sexual relations enable her to rationalize the meager amount of time together and the massive amounts of bad behaviour into hope. Denial is not just a river in Egypt… Similarly, on a larger scale, in China after the communist revolution in 1949, Cantonese families like mine who operated small businesses did not like the writing on the wall of the new government vis-à-vis capitalists and fled with just the clothes on their back. Others like Mrs Nien Cheng stayed, running Shell from Shanghai into the 1960s. But, as she recounts in her book, eventually the Red Guard came for her too. |
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