1)"''You complete me'...what a load of crap!". I have heard Dr Phil say this on his show. You have got to come into a relationship whole or it will not last.

In this way, Mary Donaldson was unlike the young Diana. A graduate in law and commerce from the University of Tasmania, Mary has worked in advertising, commercial real estate, and property management.

She had a social life, a good relationship with her siblings, her father John (a university Professor of Maths) and stepmother, the writer Susan Moody. This is not a teenager desperate for an identity.

When Frederik met Mary at Slip Inn bar, which was really hopping during the 2000 Sydney Olympics, she already had it together.

2)Dr Phil McGraw also says: "The basis of a strong relationship is a function of the friendship and the degree to which it meets the needs of the two people involved."

Friendship developed between Mary and Frederik when they kept in touch via the phone, email (God, don't we love the internet?!), and sent each other CDs of favourite bands. They got to know each other as friends who had much in common. Like Frederik, Mary's family — including her late mother, Henrietta — are into sports, especially sailing. (How much did Diana have in common with Charles? Not much.)

As for meeting each other's needs, Mary is a lovely, intelligent woman who works hard. What a complement to Frederik. They are both now around the same age, same stage of life and ready to face the future with a life partner.

As Mary said of the time, in November 2001, when their relationship became public: "The time had come where we both felt it couldn't go on long distance. We decided to take the chance and see if we were meant for each other. That's when I left Australia."